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This is Part two of our raising self esteem with NLP article in which we are going to introduce you to a powerful and effective Neuro Linguistic

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Programming technique known as a Swish Pattern.

Let’s look at the NLP Swish Pattern – the purpose of a NLP Swish Pattern is to create momentum towards a compelling future. The NLP Swish Pattern is one of the quickest techniques that you can use to re-direct your habitual thinking patterns. Take a situation that is causing you a problem at the moment, with this technique you will be able to install a set of new choices of how you would like to act or be instead.

With the NLP Swish Pattern you will discover what triggers how you respond at the moment (ie the unwanted state or behaviour) and then you’ll discover how to replace that state or behaviour with an empowering and positive self image. That means you’ll be able to perform at your optimum and produce the results that you want.

Step 1: NLP Swish Pattern – Identify the habit or situation you would like to change

The first thing that we have to do in the process of using the NLP Swish Pattern, is to know specifically what is the problem state or behaviour that you want to change.

Examples could be, “I feel shy when I meet new people”, or “I feel shaky when I speak in public” or “I feel hesitant when I have a meeting with my boss” or “I feel doubtful when I do a presentation” or “I feel uncertain that I can complete a specific task”.

All of these are fairly specific situations where the unwanted state or behaviour occurs, this allows us to replace that with a desired state or behaviour ie how we want to act or be instead.

Before we move on to Step 2 of the NLP Swish Pattern, indentify the specific habit or situation you want to change.

Step 2: NLP Swish Pattern – Finding the Trigger

The current undesired state or behaviour will be something that probably triggers automatically for you, ie you don’t think about it, it just happens. It’s not a conscious process, it’s an unconscious process that is outside of your awareness.

So in Step 2 of the NLP Swish Pattern we are going to discover what it is that triggers you to run that behaviour that you don’t want to do.
Let’s have a look at some examples of possible triggers. One of the examples of an unwanted state/behaviour that I listed above was, “I feel doubtful when I do a presentation”.  To discover what the trigger is for that, you would ask yourself this question “How do I know it’s time to feel doubtful when I do a presentation – do I have a picture?” Maybe the exact moment you get this feeling  is when you walk out on the stage, see the people sat in their chairs and then in your mind you see a picture of the audience heckling you, or people leaving the presentation hall and that is the trigger for feeling doubtful.

To get the picture ie the trigger that represents the habit or situation you would like to change. (When you think of _____________, do you have a picture?”)

Once you have the picture you can move onto Step 3.

Step 3: NLP Swish Pattern 3 – Choose How You Want To Respond Instead

So now you need to decide on the positive response that you want to do instead. This is the compelling, positive self image that you will install in your unconscious. To get a picture of the type of person you would like to be ask yourself this question: “How would I like to be instead? When I think of that do I have a picture?”

For example maybe you see a picture of a self assured, motivated, confident you delivering an engaging presentation. Your presentation has been well received and you are enjoying the applause from your audience as you look across at their smiling, happy faces.

When you have found the picture of the positive response that motivates you, the next thing to do is to make it the most compelling picture for you.

So step up into the picture, looking through your own eyes and adjust the qualities of the picture to make it the most compelling picture for you.  For example you might want to change the visual intensity of this picture, maybe make it brighter or bigger or more colourful, if it’s in colour. Do what you need to do to make this the most “real”, compelling and positive feeling for you performing at your best.

Once you have enjoyed that for a moment, you now need to step out of the picture, so that you can see your body in the picture. So now you can see you performing at your best. When you have done that, seal the picture in place…..you know the sound that Tupperware makes when you seal the air out of it?

Now clear the screen. (Think about something else for a moment)

Step 4: NLP Swish Pattern: Ready to Swish

Great now we are ready to Swish! You are going to take the old picture from Step 2 and replace it with the new, desired picture from Step 3.
Bring to mind the old picture and make sure you are looking through your own eyes.

Now insert in the lower left hand corner, a small, dark postage stamp sized picture of the new desired state and make sure that you can see your body in that picture. Ie you can see yourself performing at your best.

Simultaneously, have the old picture rapidly shrink and recede to a distant point while the dark new picture explodes big and bright into full view and covers up the old picture.  As you do this it can be accompanied by a SWIIISSH sound, make sure that you change the pictures is fast.

Now clear the screen.

Step 5: NLP Swish Pattern: Embedding the Change for the Best Results

For the best results you really want to fully embed the change. Repeat Step 4 a minimum of five times and enjoy the results!

The NLP Swish Pattern is a very effective tool for creating a new set of choices to allow you to perform at your best. This example is a simplified version, during the NLP Practitioner Training we provide you will a fuller and detailed explanation for your NLP toolkit.

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At our NLP Practitioner Training we often ask our students, who here has told friends or family that they are attending an Neuro Linguistic Programming Training and has a response similar to this one; “Neuro Linguistic What?!!”

Neuro Linguistic Programming or often shortened to NLP.
NLP is one of the most valuable set of techniques that you can use to develop and  improve yourself.  Plus you can use these tools and techniques with others to assist them to do the same. At NLP Practitioner we say that it is like having the instruction manual for your mind.

You do things in your life and you make decisions based on your past experiences.  Your life experiences set a basis for everything that you do.  The problem is that some of those experiences may be influencing your decisions in the present moment, that are causing to the get the results that you don’t really want or deserve.

With NLP you can learn to make decisions based on new information. Your life experiences are your life experiences – the wonderful thing about NLP is that you can re-program your brain so that it will make decisions based on new information. By being in a position where you can think and feel differently, that has a great impact on the decisions that you make, on your behaviour and this will change your results. That’s exciting!

With NLP Practitioner skills you can reach your full potential both personally and professionally.  NLP teaches you that you can do whatever you want in life and teaches you the skills to do it.  NLP skills enable you to work out what you want in life, giving you clarity and then how to achieve it.

NLP is a collection of information and techniques that will enable you to improve how you behave, how you think and how you feel and it can also enable you to help others to do the same.

With Neuro Linguistic Programming there is no limit to what you can do with your life.  You make the decision of what you want to do and NLP will give you the skills to do it.

NLP techniques also teach you how to improve your communication skills dramatically. This means that you can easy become a compelling and influential communicator a real catalyst for change. These skills are what you will learn at our NLP Practitioner Training.

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Have you ever had one of those days when you just feel really bad about yourself?

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I’m sure everybody has had a day like that at some time in their life – even the most exceptional and successful people! It’s part of life, although some people seem to have many more days feeling like this than others.

 

This sort of person that will often experience negative feelings like being under a black cloud, they may not like themselves very much or lack in confidence or feeling anxious, which can lead to having ‘low self esteem’.

 

Often it can get worse with the negative self talk that constantly criticises with chatter like ‘why do I always feel like this’ or ‘why me?”  These critical comments will make the person feel even worse and they tend to get caught in a loop of feeling bad and then reinforcing those feelings and making themselves feel even worse.

 

If you are circling in a negative loop like this you will no doubt find yourself lacking in energy which makes it even harder to snap out of it and raise your self esteem.

 

It is vital that you take control of your mind and know how your mind works to be able to break the cycle and improve your self esteem.

 

Thought patterns are directionalised.  In other words, if you are having continuous thoughts of ‘I am hopeless and I will never achieve anything’ then that is what your mind feels and it becomes your self-fulfilling prophecy. You are setting your brain up to go in that direction. It is listening to your thoughts and is carrying them out, so when you think repeatedly negative thoughts your brain will follow those thoughts and your reality will be negative just as your thoughts are.

 

So to improve your life and your self esteem you need to adopt a whole new way of thinking that will lead you in an empowering direction.
A technique for this is known as disassociation and its effects are quite fast.

 

Try to think of a situation where you would like to have higher self esteem and like you are having feelings about the feelings and then this will free up your inner resources so that you are able to gain new self esteeming perspectives.
 

Now while you are watching that movie with you in it as yourself:  “If I were to learn something valuable about this situation what would it be?”  You can also ask yourself:  “If I pretend there is a positive intention behind my feelings or behaviour what would that be?”  Don’t think too much about your answer, if you can’t think of an answer straight away just have a guess.  The main point of the exercise is to lead your mind in a more positive direction.

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Do you now notice any more positive feelings?

 

You can use this exercise and run through some other situations where you wished you had used more positive self esteem and begin to become aware of just how much you can raise your self esteem through a little bit of effort.

 

Look out for Part two of this Raising Self Esteem article which will discuss a very powerful NLP technique that is a fast and very effective method of creating change in your life. Join our mailing list to get future updates by Contacting us.