NLP & The Perfect Relationship Part 2
The Magnetic Power of Negative Emotions
When we think about what can go wrong in a relationship, there is an esoteric belief based around the universal Law of Attraction that any focused or charged habitual negative emotions can attract to you other negative emotions. When focused on relationships we must realise that all negative emotions, in-fact all emotions, obviously function on the emotional plain and the emotional plain by its very nature is magnetic.
So from a metaphysical prospective the emotional plain is water based (so the four elements are air, fire, water and earth). Now how that effects us here in the physical plain can be easiest explained by understanding that woman are water based, and men are fire based. From this we can begin to understand and make sense of archetypal male, female behaviour, women cry more than men and are stereotypically more emotionally open than men, that’s because they are predominantly water based. And water is metaphysically equivalent to magnetic.
So if you are experiencing a particularly charged emotion you are going to become highly magnetic in attracting to you people and events that are going to help you to actualise or validate that emotion. This of course works for both positive and negative emotions, so think about a time in the past when you were radiating positive emotions and remember all of the positive events and people that you attracted, you will have many experiences of this, haven’t you? And you are more than happy to take the credit for it, because of your positive attitude you made a fabulous thing happen in your life.
Now the flip side of this is where we can begin to become a bit unstuck because the same holds true for negative emotions especially if we have invested a lot of heat and energy into those negative emotions because again we have to be validated in what we believe to be true and if you are angry or sad there has to be a reason. So we unconsciously begin the search to find that reason, we run programs (ie strategies), fixations, limiting decisions, false identifications and complexes to ensure that we are indeed right.
So to put it as succinctly as I can:
Any negative emotions that you habitually have running at the unconscious level will cause you to attract more of that to you
This is because the emotional body is magnetic and this magnetic power tends to attract to you what you have most unconsciously repressed within you (uh-oh). So if there is something that you are absolutely unwilling to acknowledge, admit to or deal with, something that you are highly unconscious of, something dark, something that you can’t even contemplate? Well, the bad news is the more you repress and deny it the more you will unfortunately attract it.
Ultimately the more repressed or denied something is for you the more magnetic it becomes. NOW in a relationship that certainly sounds like it would be a PROBLEM and we continually draw it to ourselves because of its magnetic power. This is especially true when it comes to relationships because of the natural polarity of yin and yang. You just have to face the fact that whatever it is that you like in your partner, IS YOU and whatever it is that you don’t like in your partner, IS YOU and the thing that drives you absolutely nuts in your partner is ABSOLUTELY YOU.
The great news is that once you fully understand this, once you have let go of your own negative emotions and limiting decisions from your past and acknowledge what was repressed for you and in this acknowledgement allow yourself to understand it, learn from it and ultimately let it go, then and only then will you be truly free to see, experience and grow within your perfect relationship.
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Article by Colin McKay – who is a Certified Trainer of NLP, Certified Trainer of Time Line Therapy™, Certified Trainer of Hypnosis, Clinical Hypnotherapist and is also an Advanced Practitioner of Huna, having taken many additional programs with Drs Tad and Adriana James.