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NLP & The Perfect Relationship Part 2

The Magnetic Power of Negative Emotions

NLP & Relationships

NLP & Relationships

When we think about what can go wrong in a relationship, there is an esoteric belief based around the universal Law of Attraction that any focused or charged habitual negative emotions can attract to you other negative emotions. When focused on relationships we must realise that all negative emotions, in-fact all emotions, obviously function on the emotional plain and the emotional plain by its very nature is magnetic.

So from a metaphysical prospective the emotional plain is water based (so the four elements are air, fire, water and earth). Now how that effects us here in the physical plain can be easiest explained by understanding that woman are water based, and men are fire based. From this we can begin to understand and make sense of archetypal male, female behaviour, women cry more than men and are stereotypically more emotionally open than men, that’s because they are predominantly water based. And water is metaphysically equivalent to magnetic.

So if you are experiencing a particularly charged emotion you are going to become highly magnetic in attracting to you people and events that are going to help you to actualise or validate that emotion. This of course works for both positive and negative emotions, so think about a time in the past when you were radiating positive emotions and remember all of the positive events and people that you attracted, you will have many experiences of this, haven’t you? And you are more than happy to take the credit for it, because of your positive attitude you made a fabulous thing happen in your life.

Now the flip side of this is where we can begin to become a bit unstuck because the same holds true for negative emotions especially if we have invested a lot of heat and energy into those negative emotions because again we have to be validated in what we believe to be true and if you are angry or sad there has to be a reason. So we unconsciously begin the search to find that reason, we run programs (ie strategies), fixations, limiting decisions, false identifications and complexes to ensure that we are indeed right.

So to put it as succinctly as I can:

Any negative emotions that you habitually have running at the unconscious level will cause you to attract more of that to you

This is because the emotional body is magnetic and this magnetic power tends to attract to you what you have most unconsciously repressed within you (uh-oh). So if there is something that you are absolutely unwilling to acknowledge, admit to or deal with, something that you are highly unconscious of, something dark, something that you can’t even contemplate? Well, the bad news is the more you repress and deny it the more you will unfortunately attract it.

Ultimately the more repressed or denied something is for you the more magnetic it becomes. NOW in a relationship that certainly sounds like it would be a PROBLEM and we continually draw it to ourselves because of its magnetic power. This is especially true when it comes to relationships because of the natural polarity of yin and yang. You just have to face the fact that whatever it is that you like in your partner, IS YOU and whatever it is that you don’t like in your partner, IS YOU and the thing that drives you absolutely nuts in your partner is ABSOLUTELY YOU.

The great news is that once you fully understand this, once you have let go of your own negative emotions and limiting decisions from your past and acknowledge what was repressed for you and in this acknowledgement allow yourself to understand it, learn from it and ultimately let it go, then and only then will you be truly free to see, experience and grow within your perfect relationship.

Missed Part 1? Check it out here  NLP and The Perfect Relationship Part 1

Colin McKay

Colin McKay


Article by Colin McKay – who is a Certified Trainer of NLP, Certified Trainer of Time Line Therapy™, Certified Trainer of Hypnosis, Clinical Hypnotherapist and is also an Advanced Practitioner of Huna, having taken many additional programs with Drs Tad and Adriana James.

 Colin worked for Tad and Adriana at the Tad James Company over a period of 2 years in Sydney. This experience has allowed us to tailor our International Training & Coaching Programs, so they are specifically designed to ensure that all of our students get the maximum benefit from the life changing knowledge base of skills and techniques that is NLP, Time Line Therapy®, Hypnosis and NLP Coaching.
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Competition Nerves and Anxiety – How NLP Can Help

How NLP Can Help

How NLP Can Help

Competitive events can make even the most experienced athlete or sports person feel anxious. The question is how do you get control of those competition nerves and possibly cause that nervous energy to change into an advantage for you?

NLP and your ability to get in control of your mind and your thinking is the answer.

It’s not an uncommon experience for those competing in their chosen sport to become anxious around the time of or during a competition. This isn’t a problem that’s happens for professional athletes, it can happen at any level. One of our Twitter followers who competes in Dressage on her horse told us, “I feel like my mind runs away with me and I end up thinking really negatively about the dressage test. It’s almost like I’m trying to convince myself that I’m going to get a rubbish mark and that’s when I really start to feel nervous about it.”

Anxiety is linked to fear and causes the body to react in a certain way, it dumps adrenalin into your system in preparation for making an escape. Your heart and respiratory rate increases, blood is redirected to the muscles and mentally you become more alert. This of course can impact on your performance. It can be a major disadvantage if the anxiety takes over and you experience tremors and shaking. Also competition nerves and anxiety will impact on your decision making process and may stop you from making a well informed or advantageous decisions. Plus it can also effect how other people (and your horse if you are a rider) respond to you and your actions which can make the problem even worse.

From a NLP and Time Line Therapy® point of view, anxiety is one of two things. It’s either a warning from your unconscious mind that you are not focusing on what you want. You are focusing instead on what you don’t want to happen, the worst case scenario, the event going wrong. Or it’s telling you that you haven’t done enough preparation work going into the competition.

The key to your success is your focus. You must stubbornly focus on what you want. Check out our video about Focus here.

By training your mind, you can ensure that you consistently focus on what you want, regardless of what’s going on around you, allowing you to perform at your best.

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